Adult toys have gained popularity over the years. Research has this to say that,’’ the taboo surrounding vibrators and other devices intended to increase individual or mutual pleasures are dissolving as more individuals [and couples] reach for a far more intimate type of technology.
It is true that enhancing physical pleasure undoubtedly enhances sexual enjoyment, so what is the role of sex toys in impacting sexual satisfaction that couple gained from their overall relationship. Some novel research were carried out on the prevalence and demographics of sex toys and the findings indicated that pleasure in bed and pleasure in relationship differ slightly depending on the couple’s gender.
The belief that ‘’using a sex toy means your partner is not good enough lover is one of the most common misconception people have about sex toys,’’ says certified sex therapist, licensed marriage and family therapist, and resident relationship and sex expert at AdamandEve.com, Dr. Kat Van Kirk, Ph.D.
‘’One partner may also fear that another partner’s use of sex toy will replace them or that they’ll become overly reliant on them for arousal and/or orgasm.’’
This is not saying that every man who uses vibrator with his spouse feel inferior or unsatisfied.
It was also showed by other research, that guys who frequently use vibrators [on themselves, on their partners or both] scores higher on measures of erectile function, orgasm function, sexual desire and sexual satisfaction than men who rarely use them.
If you are yet to indulge in sex toys with your spouse, then now is the time to spice things up in the other room. Below are actually some reasons why you should introduce them in to your love life.
Most times, it is very difficult for women to achieve orgasm irrespective of how much your partner is giving. According to the Kinsey Institute, 70 percent of women need some sort of clitoral stimulation in order to achieve orgasm, this could be gotten with the aid of fingers or the tongue.
For you, this might not be options hence you get that extra help from a vibrator as it take the pressure off you and this can help to open all kinds of doors to orgasm with your man.
Being with your spouse for years does not necessary mean they will be hitting the G-spot same way you do when you masturbate, as you can take off the pressure from them by bringing in sex toys in to the intimacy of bedroom.
With pressure out of the way means orgasms will be easier, even multiple orgasms. Intercourse will be very relaxing and tingly for the two of you like it is supposed to be, it is a scientific fact that vibrators enhance sexual satisfaction, between your spouse and toys, you will be setting yourself for intense situation full of more orgasms.
Exploring sex toys in the sexual life makes lovemaking hotter and not only open doors to things you never knew you could possibly enjoy instead it will create an even powerful sexual connection.
With the toys exploration, you can never tell exactly what kind of twisted positions that you might find yourself. Though the Kama Sutra may have just 64 positions but with the right creativity and sex toy as your guide, you man would just discover that they can be more than that. Sex devices are awesome for mutual masturbation as it could be exciting to watch each other and it is really educating too.
Having to masturbate with toys in the presence of your significant other get to show them what you like and this is great for foreplay, they help to bring fantasies to your sex life. So using toys as your props is the best way to take your fantasizing out of your head and into the real life.
Though the use of toys is pretty common these days, they still get wrong stigma for being used by lonely ladies and even handful of men still get intimidated by the idea of competing with sex toys. Actually, you and your partner indulging in sex toys will be giving the finger to those old fashioned myths which really make lovemaking more fun.
Shopping and buying the toys with your partner is a bonding experience as you can both decide which ones you fancy that will be nice for the both of you. There is a huge range of varieties, with a little trial and error you would finally find the ones that work for both of you, this will make sex even more fun.
Couples who generally experiment the novel ways of getting intimate tend to perform better in maintaining passion and desire in addition to relationship satisfaction
on the long run and were more likely to use toys together including other activities such as taking shower together, trying new sexual positions and planning a date night for lovemaking.
The success of using sex toys to enhance your relationship or causing conflict depends on the level of openness and communication between spouses. Van Kirk believes that incorporating toys can boost the relationship and sexual satisfaction of anyone open to and respectful of their own and their partners’ inclinations and boundaries.
‘’If there is a sense of openness and non judgmental that can be cultivated most people can learn to incorporate new experts in to their repertoire versus being resistant. Talking about the resistance can help in dispelling myths your partner has had about sex toy use. And some education always helps. For instance, the fact that most women do not orgasm through penile/vaginal alone should be enough to invest in a sex toy.’’
