During a recent episode of Mentality, Nigerian entertainer Bovi, TV host Ebuka, and singer Banky W engaged in a candid discussion on the evolving concept of monogamy in contemporary society.
Bovi sparked the conversation by suggesting that “monogamy is a social construct,” hinting at the shifting dynamics of relationships in modern times. Ebuka then posed a provocative question, asking whether monogamy could become extinct in the next decade, referencing perceptions that many Lagos women engage in extramarital affairs and the increasing normalization of polyamory.
Banky W, however, took a measured stance, pushing back against sweeping generalizations. “I think I push back when we make generalistic statements… Lagos women are like this, Nigerian men are like that. You’re casting a blanket of assumption on everybody,” he said. He emphasized the potential h+rm of such stereotypes, particularly for shaping the expectations of younger generations.
Speaking from his personal experience, Banky W highlighted the role of spirituality in maintaining a committed relationship. “I don’t believe that monogamy is impossible, but my experience is that it is possible with God. When there’s God in the picture, you answer to a higher authority, and that helps you say there are some lines I’m not going to cross,” he noted.
The episode provided a nuanced perspective on monogamy, challenging assumptions while also addressing the influence of faith and personal values in sustaining committed relationships.
